Your 2019 New Year Resolution Tips – Tip # 3

Here it is ladies, the last of my New Year Resolution Tips for 2019. This one has to do specifically with weight loss and fitness goals, since those two seem to always be at the forefront of most women’s minds.

“I want to lose x-amount of weight in x-amount of weeks,” or, “I’m determined to exercise five days a week,” is what I have been hearing a lot of lately. Not surprising either, since I work in a gym and have been meeting lots of new prospects lately, all wanting 2019 to be the year that they get “into shape!”

love that intentions have been set, but from my experience few will achieve and maintain either of the above goals, and here’s why:

  • The weight loss goal will fail because the end goal is too far away, and people are generally not motivated by delayed rewards.

  • Or, maybe the end goal (desired amount of weight loss) is within reach and able to be accomplished. That’s great, but keeping it off is where the success will likely end, since the focus is always on getting the weight off, not keeping it off (if it were, so many women would not be repeating the same goals year after year).

  • The exercise goal will also fail – if the bar is set too high. Setting too high expectations of yourself does nothing for self-esteem. Because, as slip-ups start to occur – and they will – self-esteem progressively drops and the desire to quit (and try again next year) becomes stronger than the desire to keep going.

  • Additionally, if the exercise is too-much too-soon, the likelihood of crashing and burning is significantly greater, and often the momentum to get going again doesn’t happen until…..you guessed it…..next year!

So, what to do:

 

  • Break the big goal down into bite-size goals, and celebrate every milestone accomplished. Get your focus on losing just 1kg instead of 10kg, and then another 1kg, and so forth. Learn to enjoy the process as much as the outcome.

  • Turn your goal statement from one that has a finite ending, to one that leads to rituals. In other words, have intentions of making your new habit changes a lifestyle, not just a means to an end. Willpower doesn’t last; rituals do!

  • Don’t set a bar at all; simply determine in your mind to own up to the intentions you’ve made and take some action. If at first it’s only once a week that you get yourself moving, take it and celebrate it. And if every day is jam-packed and you can’t find a spare hour, then find a spare 20 minutes. Lose the all-or-nothing mentality! Do something; but don’t do nothing

  • Visualize and weigh up the outcomes of pain versus pleasure; the pain of doing something less enjoyable that gets you closer to your ideal “you,” versus the pleasure of doing what’s most comfortable but accepting a less optimal version of “you. Which do you want more?

 

 

Your 2019 New Year Resolution Tips – Tip # 2

I don’t know about you, but when I run and see my shadow, I like chasing “her.” She’s always one step ahead, and impossible to catch, but I like trying anyway. The other day she caught my attention again, but around this time of year her appearance is always a stark reminder of another year passed by. She had me questioning who she was, and if she was the same girl whose footsteps I followed last year, or was she someone different?

The thing I love about her is that she can be whoever I want her to be. At the start of each new year I enjoy reflecting on previous paths travelled, and in my mind’s eye I visualize the next journey and destination. I transfer my hopes and thoughts to a vision board so that I don’t forget, and then I start the chase all over again.

I challenge you to have a little fun with me. Determine who you want your shadow to be, set a course for her to run in 2019, and then smile every time you see her because she is beckoning you to follow!

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