The other morning I ran past a man who looked to me to be homeless. When I got closer, I gave him a friendly smile, not expecting more than a smile back in return. He surprised me though; he not only returned a friendly smile, he also cheered me on.
“You’re strong girl! You go!”
I could tell by his smile and tone of voice that his comment was sincere, and meant as a compliment. I smiled even bigger and yelled back, “Thanks!”
That exchange reminded me of a conversation I once had with a good friend. We talked about why it is that women – in general – have a hard time accepting compliments. And at the end of that conversation we made a pact to start smiling and saying “Thank You” to every compliment given.
I don’t always get it right, but two reasons in particular motivate me to keep trying:
- Accepting compliments is actually good for my well-being! Whether I believe the compliment to be true or not, it doesn’t matter. My natural response is to either transfer the praise back to the person giving it, or to someone or something else. But I’m training myself – and you should too – to celebrate and be grateful for kind words said about, and to me.
In accepting compliments from others, I’m also contributing to someone else’s wellbeing. Imagine if I shot down every person who tried to compliment me; what a killjoy! But show them that their words have helped to make my day a little brighter, and I guarantee that I’ll also make their day a little brighter.
I challenge you to start owning and accepting whatever positive observations are made about you, because in doing so you are helping to maintain a positive cycle of energy (and wellbeing) that both you – and your complimenters – will benefit from.